dealing with the ex

reptilemama · #1 (**permalink**) 02-17-2005, 02:29 AM

I had a decent day of today, until my ex dropped my son off. He put his stuff away, and then promptly got in trouble for playing in the bathroom. He's been told many times not to, so he got sent to bed early. After he went to bed, I opened his backpack to get out his lunchbox and put things away. Lo and behold, no lunchbox- he left it with his dad- but, there were toys in there. I've had this whole discussion before with him about taking toys to school, as he's been caught twice. Once he took a music box/snow globe that luckily didn't get broken because the teacher was kind enough to pack it up in foam before she sent it back home. So, I talk to hi about the toys, and then realize, there's homework in his backpack. Did he do it at his dad's? NO! So, he's in trouble and should be going to bed early, but instead has to stay up and get his homework done. Called his dad about the lunch box, and he says Jonny told him he didn't have homework. I was already ticked off so I ended up getting pretty mad and telling him he needs to check Jonny's backpack to make sure, and that when Jonny is with him it's *his* responsibility to do this kind of stuff. Instead, when he's with his dad he gets new stuff and goes to ChuckECheese, and I have to be the bad guy. I hate this!

Kent K25 · #2 (**permalink**) 02-17-2005, 02:57 AM

At least you know you're doing the right thing. Unfortunately for you your ex is more interested in playing favorites than playing good parent. In the long run your son will realize how much of a help you were to him and show the gratitude you deserve. I know I didn't like my dad too much on MANY occasions as i grew up cuz he was the one to always put his fist down, but I sure am happy for it now and love him to death!

ann0306 · #3 (**permalink**) 02-17-2005, 03:01 AM

Well said!

irishsnakes · #4 (**permalink**) 02-20-2005, 04:26 PM

reptilemama, that sucks,i know. i got all six of my kids in my divorce and i had the same problem with my x wife. try not to blame your son too much because he may be completely freaked out by the divorce.its not his fault his dad has become a penishead.

JuliusSqueezer · #5 (**permalink**) 02-20-2005, 04:34 PM

Heh...My son is 15 and I have custody. I actually had something work out in my favor concenring the ex...finally! lol. His mom is constantly calling him on my cell phone. If he's around, I answer it. If he's off playing or asleep, I ignore her calls. We have been discussing getting him his own cell phone for awhile, mainly because he plays football and practice ends at varying times and he is constantly having to bug the coaches or other kids with cell phones to call me to come get him. BUT...his mom got tired of me ignoring her calls so SHE got him his own cell phone...cool! Works for me...especially since I'm not paying for it lol.

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