Just need to vent

[reptilemama]

Gotta blow off steam, and it looks like you guys get to be the lucky readers. I'm soooo frustrated and ticked off at my soon-to-be ex. He agreed to mow my lawn this summer, but wouldn't ya know it, the lawn mower decides to kick the bucket and won't run for more than 5 minutes. Now he refuses to mow because he has to keep restarting the mower and supposedly last time it took him 2 1/2 hours. Any time I ask him to fix it, he acts like it's sooooo hard to do, and I'm getting to the point where I'm tired of asking, but I can't afford to get it fixed because he's not even giving me enough money to get my bills paid. I work full time, but I'm stuck with the house and car payments, both of which are outrageous because he ruined my credit before he left. So I don't even make enough to pay those, much less all the other bills. I'm lucky if he takes our son one day a week, so I have to pay for a babysitter just to keep my job, which makes it even harder to pay bills. I'm so sick of all this, if I wasn't ready for a divorce before, I sure am now! I can't wait til it's official so I have a legal way to go after him for the money. At this point I'm afraid I may have to quit my job and go live with my parents, and let the mortage company forclose on the house. I *really* don't want to do that, partly because I don't want to burden my parents, and partly because I've finally got a job I love, made some great friends, and don't have to worry that we may have to move any day now because of his job. For once in my life I've found a place I really want to stay, and could if I can afford it. I just don't know how I'm going to do it.

[pandora1985]

men are ***holes, i'm dealing with one myself right now. hang in there

[JuliusSqueezer]

Yah...boys eat bugs.

What about renting out a room? Is that an option?

[reptilemama]

I have a tiny house- 2 bedrooms, 2 baths, a living room and a kitchen. I don't think anyone would want to room with my son, and they sure wouldn't want to sleep in my room with all the snakes!

[haroldo359]

that sucks.

good luck with all that.

[thetupak]

A guy not wanting to sleep in the same room with a woman and a bunch of snakes to boot. dont think that would be a problem for real men

[dave_lp]

i pay my wife 100 bucks a week and cut her grass, baby sit the kids on her days so she can go out. I make sure the kids have what they need. She screwed up on me, so i could care less about her struggling. but i wont let my babies suffer

[irishsnakes]

that sux, wish i could help but im having $ problems myself. im out because of a work injury(rotator cuff) and my employer and the work comp carrier are trying to fornicate with me. ive been off 3 wks and have yet to see a dime in benefits. as far as exes go, im still getting doctor bills for my exwife because she listed me as the responsible party, even after the divorce was final.

[ssscales]

Is he paying child support? That should be your first step!

[reptilemama]

He's giving me what he can (or so he says), but much less than our original agreement, which was that he would give me enough to make the house and car payments and my paycheck would cover everything else. He keeps saying his paychecks have been small lately, so we'll see if he starts giving me more any time soon. But since he hasn't even filed yet, I don't have a legal way to go after him for the money.

[irishsnakes]

file on him! i dont know about illinois, but in missouri whoever files first can usually get a temporary custody and support order.

[ssscales]

FILE, do not trust what we most of us men say in those situations! Not enough for you, means just enough for us to party hard and restart our lives. Ex wife comes in 30 or 40 in our priority list of things to do.

[Sunn]

Rather than be frustrated which by the way keeps you off kilter (hmmm could be a ploy he uses for his benefit) just file, ask for a emergency hearing for temporary support for you and the kids......he has proved he isn't going to pick them up in any dependable manner thus requiring you to pay MORE sitting fees......make sure you ask for enough for this behavior rarely changes unless they are trying to impress another female......WHICH BTW makes Her his #1 priority in the future.

Also don't forget to ask for interest on child support payments that are not paid on time.....they do that and it helps them decide to pay you first rather than VISA or the car payment. Another thing....ask for child support to be retroactive to the time he left....can't hurt to ask and lawyers usually don't care enough to get you all they can unless they personally know and detest them.

So all illusions aside....do what is best for your kids and remember.....
if he was such a nice guy who you could trust.......why would you need a divorce in the first place?

Just a few thoughts from someone who knows......the hard way!

[ssscales]

I never understood why woman always feel bad for the ex? The ex can cheat, steel, disrespect, lie and the woman still feels so bad she falls for the "I don't have enough money" routine. Poor guy, he has bills to pay...

Yet, I bet he has enough money to go out on the weekends, buy clothes, maybe even a sports car. File for child support!! Don't waste another minute!